Hi everybody. These are exciting times. I love God and love people too. I am a daughter to some lovely parents, Paul and Florence Komolafe. A twin sis.to Ken-my special bro and sister to other precious sibblings. I am a wife to my loving husband Joshua aka Debo and a mother to my wonderful children, Emanuel and Angelique. I do have wonderful parents in-law, Samuel and Comfort Opadiya and of course I have kind brothers and sisters in-law. A former French teacher and Lecturer, I simply enjoy teaching! Presently, a missionary, teacher, speaker and a home maker, I'm passionate about talking and teaching people, especially young people, about God's love and His purpose for creating them. I love to motivate everybody to come into an active relationship with God, accepting his love program for their lives and then do the same to others. I hope you can sense that unconditional love as you go through this site. Love you heaps!
“Then Peter came to Him and said, “Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me, and I forgive him? Up to seven times? Jesus said to him, “ I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven. Matthew18:21- 22. Read up to verse 35
“Should you not, also have had compassion on your fellow servant, just as I had pity on you? And his master was angry, and delivered him to the torturers until he should pay all that was due to him. “So shall My Heavenly Father also will do to you if each of you, from his heart, does not forgive his brother his trespasses.” 33- 35
…Give us this day our daily bread. And forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors.” Matthew 6:11-12
People we find easy to forgive:
Our children
People we find hard to forgive:
Our spouses
Our friends
Our families
Our enemies
What is good for one is good for all. What you give to one, you can give to others.
8 leadership lessons from an admiral -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Here's a major conclusion I've reached after years of watching leadership at all levels: If you want to be a truly effective leader, be an ethical and moral person first.
Barry C. Black, author of From the Hood to the Hill --------------------------------------------------------------------------------
The cover of Bob Woodward's book Shadow shows a photograph of five presidents: Bill Clinton, George Bush, Ronald Reagan, Jimmy Carter, and Gerald Ford. They're in profile, facing right, dressed in dark suits, standing together at the funeral of Richard Nixon. To me, that snapshot of those world-famous faces speaks volumes about power – its limits and its ephemeral nature.
Each in turn had taken his place at the head of the world's most powerful nation. As each grew angry, the earth shuddered slightly. A few slashes of a presidential fountain pen at the bottom of a document could cause ripples of global repercussions. But at the instant of that camera click, then-President Bill Clinton was the only one with any real power.
The others, though still possessing the same wisdom and experience, were simply citizens. Relatively few sought their wisdom, and military bands no longer heralded their coming and going. Hands that once seemed to make the earth tremble had become quite ordinary.
The same thing happens – with even more abruptness – in the military. A few years ago, I was invited to Salt Lake City, Utah, for the Mormon General Conference. Part of the festivities included a concert by the famous Tabernacle Choir. As my wife and I entered the auditorium, I scanned the vast crowd.
"I don't see any empty seats," I whispered to her. "Do you?"
An instant later, an usher was beside me. I was an active-duty Navy rear admiral at the time, and he'd spotted my full dress uniform.
"Admiral," he said, "may I assist you and your wife in finding seats?"
"Thank you so much," I responded, exhaling with relief.
Quickly, he led Brenda and me forward to the first few rows.
Where is he going to find a place for us to sit? I wondered. Every seat is taken.
Arriving at the front, he paused beside a man and his wife and abruptly beckoned to them. As the couple stood, my mouth dropped in astonishment. The man was the retired commandant of the Coast Guard, a four-star admiral, who outranked me by two stars.
"Sir," I said to the admiral, "I'm sure there's been some mistake."
He gave me an amused smile and winked. "Suffer it to be so, Chaplain," he said. "You'll see the difference after they've put ‘Ret.' behind your name."
He was right. Glance at one of my business cards, and you'll see the "Ret." behind my name too, which stands for "retired." Leaders lose much of their power and authority after they leave their prestigious jobs, and this can be really tough if they've imagined that the leadership title defined their identity.
That's not going to happen to me, I determined. Lord, please don't let that happen to me. One way I tried to keep things in perspective was to occasionally go to work in civilian clothing. I was startled to discover that when I entered the building sans uniform, many people didn't seem to recognize me. And in the case of those who did, their usually effusive greetings either lost a lot of voltage or vanished entirely. Take careful notes here, Admiral Black, I told myself sternly. Do not take your status too seriously. You are more than your job title.
Here's a major conclusion I've reached after years of watching leadership at all levels: If you want to be a truly effective leader, be an ethical and moral person first. True leadership involves many specific talents, but Aristotle's ethos (goodness and morality) provides a marvelous base for persuading others to follow you. If people believe that you practice what you preach, they usually will trust you immensely. But if they've seen hypocrisy, your effectiveness is hampered no matter how talented you are.
Leadership can be taught and caught. Thousands learn about leadership in classrooms. Still more of us learn about leading by assimilating principles from the lives of leaders around us. Most people experience both forms of leadership development.
When it comes to the people who helped me learn to lead, some are lesser lights, and others are greater lights. Interestingly, we sometimes learn just as much or more from people whose names will never appear in lights. During my lifetime, I learned far more about leadership from faithful people working behind the scenes than from those who were more prominent. Here are a few of the lessons I learned.
Expect events to shape destinies. One of my earliest leadership lessons was that events, more than ability, often catapult people into positions of prominence. Shakespeare captured this notion when he said, "Be not afraid of greatness. Some men are born great, others achieve greatness, and some have greatness thrust upon them." Without the Civil War, we may have never known the wonderful greatness of many notable Americans. Without World War II, names like Patton, Marshall, and MacArthur might be historical footnotes. Without Rosa Parks' refusal to give up her seat on that bus, we probably wouldn't have a national holiday honoring Dr. King. Events often provide the critical variables for effective leadership.
Expect leaders to have different talents. I learned early that leaders come in many forms with many styles and abilities. Some are quiet, and others almost bombastic. Some are eloquent while others express themselves with difficulty. The five presidents mentioned at the beginning of this chapter had their individual strengths and weaknesses. Nonetheless, each made a substantive difference. Most successful leaders, however, have one thing in common: they mobilize people to achieve shared objectives.
Don't run from the possibility of failure. I learned that most effective leaders are willing to fail. They seem to sense that it is better to attempt something great and fail than to not try at all. Time and again, I've seen strong leaders who possessed the courage to fall and get up repeatedly.
Listen – but know when to act independently. When Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. spoke out against the Vietnam War, he was vilified in the press. Contributions to King's organization, the Southern Christian Leadership Conference, dramatically dropped. He was told that he should confine his comments to civil rights and not editorialize about foreign policy. But he ignored the criticism and acted independently in spite of the hardships. Many now celebrate his courage. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Top-flight leaders choose and set the right priorities and then organize their lives to fulfill them in an orderly and expeditious way.
Barry C. Black --------------------------------------------------------------------------------
Exercise self-rule. Pizzazz may be optional for leaders, but self-rule isn't. Self-rule happens when you permit discipline and good habits to control the critical parts of your life – the physical, mental, and spiritual dimensions. Ruling yourself might mean starting an exercise program, strengthening your devotional life, or pursuing intellectual goals. Top-flight leaders choose and set the right priorities and then organize their lives to fulfill them in an orderly and expeditious way.
Develop sound judgment. A self-controlled person – who's used to approaching life with careful forethought – probably has an easier time developing sound judgment, which is a maturity and experience that makes one trustworthy. If you're like me, you've often been astounded by the foolish mistakes and decisions of those who should know better. Many a leader has had his or her career sidelined or even derailed because of sexual misconduct or financial greed, to name just two bad judgment calls.
Be humbly hospitable. Luther Palmer was the headmaster at the boarding high school that I attended. He was the exact opposite of the stereotypically remote, distant principal. Instead, he invited students home for dinner and got to know them one-on-one. He kept an eye on students who aspired to the Gospel ministry, and set up instructional periods with key preachers who visited our school. Though a busy administrator, he took the time to teach a class called "Facing Life," which was a requirement for all students. In this way, he came to know most of us in a very personal way.
Mentor compassionately. Dr. Frank Hale, president of Oakwood College the spring semester of my freshman year, spotted me kissing a girl on a bench outside his office window. Without moralizing or becom¬ing angry, he sent someone to bring the young woman and me into his office.
"What is your name, son?" he queried.
"I'm Barry Black, sir," I responded respectfully.
"Barry," he said, "if you were president of this college, how would you feel if visitors to your campus saw students kissing on benches, and not only that, but right outside the president's office?"
"I wouldn't feel too great about that, sir," I answered sheepishly.
"Well, son," he said mildly, "practice the golden rule, and treat me the way you would want to be treated."
I'll never forget this wonderful leader, who became a friend, mentor, and supporter. His compassion and levelheaded wisdom helped me to become far more serious about what I did in public.
"Good afternoon, Mrs Donsworth and my fellow class mates.
Today, I will be talking to you about someone special and close to me, my dad....
My dad's name is Joshua-Debo Opadiya. He was born on the 15th of December 1958, in Nigeria.
My dad has been extremely successful. He has a PHD in Science. He has also been a school teacher and taught in many schools and universities.
Today he is a minister of a church. He enjoys helping people and I love that about him.
My dad got married back in August of 1986 in Nigeria to a beautiful lady called Yinka my mum. My dad says that was the happiest day of his life.
The events that have shaped my dad's life is the day that he accepted Jesus Christ as his Lord and Saviour. He began a journey of transformation and relationship with the Lord.
A difficult time that my dad experienced was the loss of his sister and my aunty back in 2004, however this time made my dad stronger in character.
My dad's family, mum and dad still live overseas in Nigeria. They are still happily married and successful business people.
My dad's favourite holiday destination is Innsbruck, Austria. My dad tells me stories about how beautiful it is. Infact, I was born there.
My dad is an extremely busy man but when he has a few moments to kick up his feet he enjoys the relaxation of a good read.
My dad's craziest moment is one not to be proud of and dangerous but he has learnt from his lesson. It's rather naughty...Drink driving.
The reason I chose my dad is because the way he lives his life is an inspiration to me. I look up to my dad so much. I love that my dad is a selfless person. He would do anything to help another person in need.
My dad is fun! and a pretty cool dad. We laugh lots together. I hope one day, I will be just like him. I love my dad.
Just imagine going to a fruit/vegetable shop and not finding tomatoes or spinach or even apples! This rarely is the case. The farmers make it a point of duty to sow and harvest. They don't miss the opportunity to do this year in year out.
After harvesting, farmers immediately make plans to set aside the seed for the next sowing. So there is constant sowing and harvesting. There's rarely a lack!
The bible tells us that 'seed time and harvest shall never cease'.
As the farmer sows diligently, taking good care of the seed while in the soil, harvest is a 'sure banker'
As it is in the physical so it is in the spiritual. Sowing precedes harvesting, harvesting comes after sowing. Sowing sparingly brings little harvest while a generous sowing brings a generous harvest.
As you keep sowing diligently for the sake of the gospel. Sowing your time, your talents, your money and even your prayers, you will continuously harvest abundant increase in all areas of your life. You will never lack any good thing and this brings glory to God.
Let's sow in the time of plenty, let's sow in the time of hardships or in the time of need. Let's cultivate the habit of sowing for the sake of the gospel. Our barns will always be full.
Why did Jesus wait until after Lazarus died before showing up to raise him from the dead?
Why did God wait until Pharaoh, his chariots and horsemen caught up with the Israelites on the dry ground of the sea before asking Moses to stretch out his hand over the sea so the water returned and destroyed Pharaoh and his army?
What am I up to?
Sometimes the Lord allows oppositions, blockages, etc to come our way and wait to see if we will give up the fight of faith.
Oppositions are not to make us give up, we must resist the enemy, as we are led by the Holy Spirit, to enter into our inheritance as children of God.
Indeed, Jesus said the gates of hell will not prevail against the church. Means they will try, they will pursue as far as the red sea but they will not prevail against us
Those that know their God shall be strong and do great exploits
There is no giving up. There is no throwing in of the towel!
Keep pressing on, keep your confession alive and believe God for your victory.
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Just returned from Adelaide. Was away for a short holiday with my husband, kids and a family from church. Can't get over the overview of Ps. Sunday Adelaja's ministry in Ukraine, very impressive and massive. I really want to see that happen here in Australia and indeed in every nation of the world! I was also challenged by the word he brought. It was along the line of impacting your sphere of influence. Being kings and priests in the market place. It was also an opportunity to meet ps. Bose Adelaja. Was a good time! You might want to check his website. I guess its WWW.GODEMBASSY.ORG
................. MY EYES HAVE SEEN THE GLORY, OF THE COMING OF THE LORD!
PRAYERS, ARE FOR THE UNITY OF LOVE IN CHRIST JESUS THE SON OF OUR LIVING GOD. THE CHURCH MUST REPENT OF ITS SELF RIGHTEOUS DOINGS, ALONG WITH THE HATRED TOWARDS MAN. IN ORDER TO DO SO EACH ONE OF US MUST LOVE THEIR ENEMIES AND PRAY FOR THOSE THAT DESPITE FULLY USE US IN FORGIVING ALL MEN. THIS DOESN'T MEAN TO AGREE WITH THE ENEMIES WORK BUT LOVE TO OVER-COME THE EVIL ONE, WITH THE LOVE OF GOD IN OUR HEARTS, ONLY GOD GIVES THAT KIND OF LOVE! GOD SAID WHEN WE HAVE DONE ALL WE CAN DO THEN WAIT UPON HIM BECAUSE THAT SHOWS FAITH WITH GOD, WHEN YOU'VE DONE ALL HUMANLY POSSIBLE,
GOD WILL DO THE IMPOSSIBLE. GOD SAID, ALL THINGS IS POSSIBLE WITH HIM AND EVEN TO THOSE THAT BELIEVE IN HIM THAT ALL THING ARE POSSIBLE! HE IS SUCH A LOVING HOLY FATHER TO LOVE US AND PAY A FULL PRICE OF HIS LOVE HIS SON JESUS THAT IS RISEN TO HEAVEN. WHEN WE'VE DONE ALL WE CAN IT IS IN HIS HANDS! THIS WAR IS BETWEEN OUR HOLY GOD OR THE DEVIL. GOD SAY'S WE CHOSE WHO WE WILL SERVE AS OUR MASTER FOR THE DAY, HE SAID HE WOULD LIKE FOR ALL TO SERVE HIM I CHOSE HIM AND PRAY FOR THOSE THAT CHOSE EVIL GOD WILL NOT BE MOCKED WHAT WE DO IN LIFE WE WILL PAY FOR IT WHETHER IT BE GOOD OR EVIL, WE MAKE THE CHOSE.
YOUR IN MY TALKS WITH MY LORD AND SAVOR IN THE NAME OF THE FATHER SON HOLY GHOST
Happy Birthday Yinka!! Miss you guys... GOTTA get down to Sydney some time soon... love to Joshua, Eman, Angelique and the whole church there... the Atiga family in Singapore
Hey bro, Gr8 to hear from u! Pity we couldn't make the Oct trip. Next time for sure. How's ur lovely wife? how are the kids too? Hopefully we can connect more thru multiply. Hear the good work u guys are doing o'er there. Keep it up! Increased grace and anointing upon ur lives in Jesus'name. Luv, Yinka. Pls resend ur multiply invitation. I'll also try from this end to invite u.
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